A win-win conversation with my mother

Since I have been Focusing, my relationship with my family has changed significantly. I can listen to my mother without feeling that I am responsible for solving her problems or giving her advice. When there is a troubling situation in her…

Managing domestic disagreements

Ever since I experienced it for the first time, Focusing has be a fundamental part of my life. Every decision I make and every situation in life is accompanied by Focusing. I gained confidence from the moment I decided to have a Focusing partnership. When…

Focusing with a difficult decision

Now I am more aware of my feelings and needs when I have to make a decision. Nursing my child has been a wonderful link between us. There is part of me that would like to continue until my son decides to let go of it. But there is another part…

Focusing in pregnancy and with a toddler

Now that he is 23 months old, I am aware of a relationship of respect and empathy with my son. I can get down on the floor with him when something bothers him. I name what I sense he might be feeling and I see how his expression changes or he stops crying, as if he were saying, “Yes, that’s how it is, mama.”